Life is 'all of us'

This is a continuation of my previous post "I am Not Special"

Something Matti said in a Facebook post is worth a mention here:

"Something Bernard once shared which has stuck with me and been of great value:
If someone shows you something - a principle, an application, an insight -- don't now present yourself as being the source of that principle / insight / application. You didn't see it because you were caught in your own illusions / programming.
Rather, take the time to walk and test what they shared with you and discover what it means to you in your unique way / process, and then share the process of change and self honesty you walked, how you benefitted from what was SHOWN to you."

Just because, pretty much everything I'm writing in these blogs, are things that have in a way been shown to me. Through Desteni, Bernard, Sunette, and other Destonians. I've just realized and discovered them for myself and so have been sharing it from that perspective. So it's like 'hey, I have realized and understood this, BUT I was first shown it. And even though I may not have understood it at the time it was shown to me, I do understand it now because I've taken it upon myself to walk that process'.

And I thought I'd dedicate a blog to that point because it's in a way a dimension I was 'missing', but is actually quite important. As in the dimension of, you sort of NEED 'allies'. That's why we are a 'group'. You do need to learn from others. And now that I look at it, I'm preaching to the choir lol. I know I tend to be like, "nah I'm good. I'll figure it all out on my own, thank you", and be a bit 'closed-minded' and not very 'open' to learning from others. But I've definitely sort of gotten the lid on my nose from that one, so I'm very careful to not go there again. And to sort of force myself to consider other people's perspectives.

You know, like read blogs and Facebook posts. Actually take an interest in what somebody else has to say and the process they're walking and what they've realized and understood. I know I can still do more. Like maybe listen to Eqafe a bit more, read through the chats more. These are the things I tend to neglect, but it's at the same time the things that support me the most in my process. Cause I happen to be an 'arrogant piece of shit' lol. But that's fine in a way, just something to be 'careful' of for me, and put 'measures' in place to 'curb the arrogance'.

To sort of recognize that, 'hey, I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for Desteni. And the work that was already done before me. And all the things I have been shown through them'. Things that I now get to show others as well. While keeping in mind that it's not about the 'individual'. It's about the 'group', and what we can learn from each other, how we can support each other and what we can create together. Cause LIFE is 'all of us'.

I am the Best

This is a continuation of my previous post "Are you Highly Sensitive?"

Something that I have found like a 'life-saver', as in something that's really made a difference in terms of getting out of my mind, is the realization that there is actually something to 'learn' from other people lol.

Cause honestly, deep down I always thought that I am truly 'all that'. That I'm 'the bees knees'. Cream of the crop. Ain't nobody better. And that I thus don't really need to get to know other people, cause, well if I'm the best then what do other people have to show me that I don't already know?

In a way I couldn't fathom that I am not 'the best', in terms of 'the most' self-honest, self-responsible, principled, disciplined, etcetera. I mean yes I know, the arrogance lol, but that is exactly what I thought of myself. But all it really was, was just a fear of 'failing', of being 'behind' and actually being 'the slow one'. I mean, clearly this logic is quite flawed as obviously in order to get anywhere, you need to 'learn'. You need to make yourself small and humble. Like, the opposite of what I was making myself. AND you need to actually engage with your reality, with other people, and get to know them, to find out what there is to learn in fact.

And even though it was a little 'painful' at first lol, when I finally did clue in on reality, it was quite a RELIEF. It's like I finally came down from that hot-air balloon I'd lifted myself up into, and found myself actually just 'here', together with everyone else that's just 'here'. I found that I am not 'alone'. And that 'we're all in this together'. That basically, none are free until all are free. And in that, there is no 'best' or 'better', but we do all have a responsibility to be a 'front-runner' in the ways we see we can be. Because, if we don't do it, then who will?

Retain your Identity like Water

This is a continuation of my previous post "What are you Waiting for?"

One neat little trick to test or check your self-honesty is who are you in the face of criticism? Are you able to stand in the point of knowing who you are regardless of what anybody may think, or will you feel threatened, intimidated, cornered and then lash out like a wild animal?

And this 'standing in the face of criticism' also includes, are you able to humble yourself and consider the words that are being spoken and have a real honest look at yourself? Are you able to learn, or are you going to get stuck in arrogance? In beliefs you have about who you are. That you'll defend tooth and nail.

Criticism only feels 'harsh' when you are 'harsh' inside. When you are starkly trying to hold on to your self-beliefs. To learn, you have to be soft and malleable. Not like a sponge lol The whole sponge metaphor is bullshit. That's how you develop resentment and distrust, when you 'unquestioningly' accept and agree to things, and 'absorb' like a 'sponge'.

Maybe a better metaphor would be to be like water. Water will still retain its 'identity' as 'water' even though it is at the same time very 'fluid' and 'flexible' and will take on pollutants and anything you throw at and in it. But no matter how polluted water gets, it is always in a constant movement, because that is it's 'identity'. To be fluid and moving and flexible. It doesn't take offense to the 'pollution'. It takes it in, purifies what it can, and leaves the rest.

That's how you have to be with criticism. Take it in unconditionally, 'purify' it as in learn from it what you can, and just leave the rest as that which isn't supportive.

The Hell we make Ourselves

This is a continuation of the previous post "Giving your all within going for what you want"

When you get arrogant, there are consequences. You may not be aware that your actions are having consequences, until it is 'too late'. The thing about arrogance is the inability to see consequences. You think you've 'got something', and that that 'something' is a 'sure thing'. You stop questioning yourself. And when you stop questioning yourself you become blind to what's happening around you.

You stop seeing that things are always in movement. Everything is always moving even if it doesn't seem like it. Arrogance makes you not move 'with' things. It makes you stagnate. It makes you stop breathing and stop living. It makes you also assume that, just like you came to a halt, so did the world around you. And so you don't see that in fact, life is always 'on the move'. Just cause you gave up, doesn't mean that the world stopped turning.

You sink into a 'lazy couch' inside of yourself, from where you don't see any 'urgency' to move 'with' your reality, to pay attention to your reality. Unfortunately, when consequences play out, it becomes an 'emergency'. But then there is no action that can reverse or undo those consequences. Then there is just the bottomless pit of regret for not having been more humble.

Arrogance is like shooting yourself in the leg. But by the time you realize you've shot yourself in the leg there's nothing you can do anymore. You now need to make peace with the consequences and not to mention the anger at yourself for having done it to yourself. There is nothing worse than realizing that what is happening is completely your own doing and that there is nothing you can do about it now because you should have just not been so arrogant.

The only way to 'beat' arrogance, is to just keep breathing. Breath is the pace in which life moves, which is 'in every moment', always present, always aware. Never coming to a halt. It is a constant flow and if you don't move 'with' that flow, in humbleness, you might end up in your own self-created hell.

To stay humble in every moment is a constant reminder to yourself. To constantly remind yourself that "life is moving" and, "My reality is moving, so I must be here, present and breathing."  To be moving with and as the flow of life or you'll get swept away the moment you sink into a seemingly 'sure thing' and stagnate.