So you want to be Special

This is a continuation of my previous post "Love is Not the Answer"

I've always been more or less obsessed with being in a position wherein you're admired, and you get lots of attention and appraisal. And people look up at you and they listen to you and respect you. And you basically get to 'feel' very 'special' and 'important'.

At least, that was always my interpretation of it lol. "Oh that person's getting lots of admiration and attention, they 'get to' feel special and important." And I guess that way of looking at it was sort of cultivated in school, when yeah, there were those 'popular kids' who just seemed to draw all the attention just cause I guess 'there was just something about them'. That 'je ne sais quoi'. So yeah, they 'got to' feel all special and important while the rest of us could just watch in jealousy.

But in the 'real world' it doesn't actually work that way. If you want respect, admiration and attention, you have to 'earn it'. Because, in the 'real world', nobody gives a shit about who you are. You're not 'special' just cause you exist lol. In fact, being 'special' and 'important' is not about 'who you are' at all. It's about the things you DO. It's about the things you can 'prove'. The example that you can live. The work, the effort and the care that you put into things. That, people will notice, and respect. But, it's still not about 'you'. Make no mistake about that. You merely 'provide' people what they were looking for. An 'example' to live by.

So, if you want that kind of attention, that means you will have to work twice as hard as everyone else. You have to put in double the effort as anyone else, and care ten times as much. And forget about it being like being a king or queen sitting on a throne. It's all in reverse you see. How are you going to 'rule a kingdom' sitting on that throne? You have to be the one to 'stand under' everyone. So that you can 'carry' and really get to know what actually exists in your kingdom. And that's not 'glamorous' at all. But yes, people will 'respect' you, because they recognize that you're someone who actually cares. And because that's what we all really need.